In addition to relying on the Lord, seeking support from others can be helpful as we face the realities of our loved one's choices.
One man shared his struggle of watching his wife fall into and feed a prescription drug addiction. All his energy was directed at what she was doing and what he could do to stop her—it was taking over his life. When his wife left the family, he felt shame, denial, and fear that no one else could understand what he was going through and that he couldn’t continue on. As he realized he needed help for himself, he attended a support group for family members and friends of those with addictions. He learned to seek support from others.
Seek support: “In addition to relying on the Lord, seeking support from others can be helpful as we face our loved ones’ choices” (Principle 6: “Support Guide: Help for Spouses and Family of Those in Recovery”).
We don’t need to suffer alone. President Henry B. Eyring said, “All of us will be tested. And all of us need true friends to love us, to listen to us, to show us the way, and to testify of truth to us so that we may retain the companionship of the Holy Ghost” (“True Friends,” Ensign, May 2002, 29). Sharing our struggles may be an uncomfortable and vulnerable experience. Many of us feel fearful or ashamed about our loved ones’ choices and do not want others to know about the problem. We may be concerned that others will judge us or our loved ones. Our loved ones who are struggling may ask that we not tell anyone, even ecclesiastical leaders. However, it is acceptable and important to ask for the help we need or desire. The Lord will guide us to the support we need. He has promised, “I the Lord thy God will hold thy right hand, saying unto thee, Fear not; I will help thee” (Isaiah 41:13).